For parents, few things can be as tormenting as having to watch your own children be mistreated by other children. When adults or officials act inappropriately, we have a relatively clear set of options for dealing with it. But when our child’s peers become the aggressors, it gets much more complicated. A single act of aggression or bad manners is one thing, but when it appears that bullying may be affecting our child’s health or happiness, we have no choice but to step in.
According to the United States C.D.C., some 160,000 children stay home from school each year because they are afraid of bullies. Diminished school performance, fragile mental health, increased rates of substance abuse and suicide are all consequences suffered by the young and innocent victims of this anti-social behavior. Of course, parents quickly become victims as well. We can’t just take our kids out of school, and yet we can’t be there to protect them from mistreatment. Our instincts push us to fight for our children, but our conscience warns us against making matters worse. And while many school officials try their best, the fact is that most become mired in a confusing and paralyzing mess of accusations, counter-accusations, lies and threats. In utter frustration, some parents begin to feel helpless, powerless to rescue or defend their own kids.
If this is you, feel powerless no more. You can defeat bullying. You can protect your children. And you can turn this potentially awful episode into an empowering life experience for your loved ones. Lets start by putting your feet firmly on the ground. Read through the Table of Contents below.
Orientiation: These pages will orient you to the subject of bullying. They will briefly, but thoroughly, answer your most pressing questions: What does this say about my child? Why is this happening now? What is my role as a parent? and When should I seek help? You will also learn about the social dynamics of bullying, and the psychology of the bullies themselves.
Basic Training: We’ve all made the mistake of giving our child bad advice from time to time. Don’t take that chance when it comes to bullying. The Basic Training pages will elevate you from the ranks of the Common Sense Practitioners. From rebuilding your child’s ego, to meeting with school officials, we’ll walk you through these crucial first steps. We’ll teach you how to start a proper Daily Journal, and how to educate your family about bullying.
Getting Serious: For those of you who are currently dealing with a bullying situation, or who want to proactively prevent your child from succumbing to one, these pages have what you need. We start you off with some quick Special Ops anti-bullying tactics that you can teach your child tonight, and have them using by tomorrow. Additional topics include: Building Your Child’s Confidence, Strengthening Their Response System, Friend-Building and Role Playing.
Bullying Bootcamp: We finish out this tutorial by offering you an incredibly helpful tool. Bullying Bootcamp sums up the most important points in this tutorial, and delivers them to you in the form of seven written exercises. The exercises give you the power to actively facilitate the development of your child’s confidence, response options and base of friends. Simply download the file, print it out, and use the quick lesson plans to facilitate an Anti-Bully Strengthening or Recovery plan with your child.
1. E. Eron. University of Michigan. Published in Psychology Today; September 1, 1995 – reviewed 10/9/2009.